“Is it ok to have sex with someone on the first date?”
Kelli: Yes it is! Newsflash, we’re living in a new millennium. While its “expected” for women to make a man wait for a lil “something, something,” women have JUST as many hormones as men. When we see a man, we may fantasize, first, about children and later about what one does to get those children! Two grown adults should be able to decide what’s best for their relationship. If you meet a man and you’re a little backed up and you want to get straight to that horizontal mambo, as long as you have protection, no remorse and no care for the fact that the male may wake up and never speak to you again, I say get it girl! I know plenty of women who’ve had sex on their first date and the results have varied. Some men respect a woman for going after what she wants upfront while others are intimidated. I’ve heard of people falling in love at first sight and knowing on their first date they’d found “The One” so they decided to immediately seal the deal. My point is that two grown people should be able to maneuver the waters of a relationship together without the moral boundaries set up by the old timers! As long as you know what’s best for you and what YOU can handle (not what the MAN can handle, ladies, but YOU) then I say if the first date got you feeling like a panty dropper, drop ‘em! The experience can teach you a lot about who you are and who you want to be. It’s ridiculous to say you should NEVER have sex on the first date because everyone has different circumstances.
Derrick: I beg to differ! When a woman gives up the goods on the first date us men often reason that if it was that easy for me in the beginning, how many other men has she allowed to do the same? A man wants some semblance of a challenge. We enjoy the chase because it excites us. To capture the prize with no resistance makes us apprehensive about pursuing any further relationship with the woman. Sex is STILL sacred and a woman must control the parameters of her sexuality at all times. A man will treat you in the future the exact same way in which he was initially introduced to you. A woman who exposes her body to someone she knows nothing about usually gets treated afterwards like a nothing and a whore. The sexual revolution Kelli’s boasting about isn’t revolving around respect. You must make a man earn your sacred treasure. Anything worth waiting for is worth having. So make that man wait ladies and he’ll come running back!
Derrick: Maybe. And don’t you make it a rule to never sleep with a man before two weeks of dating?
Kelli: Maybe but my point is, “To each, his own.” That works for me but not for all situations!
Derrick: Well making me wait is why you’re still here!
Kelli: (Rolling eyes) No because if you would’ve waited and the sex was horrible, you wouldn’t be here! It had nothing to do with the wait. At the end of the day you have to keep a man wanting more…and there are many different ways to do it!
Derrick: But the best plan is making a man wait for it. What do the readers think? Y’all know I’m right!
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